Strong Moms

Once upon a time I was five or so and I never recovered. So many questions and I have no idea if I asked them all or if I saved them or if they just came out in my mind. But questions I had and questions I still love.

There is nothing more valuable than a good question and really no such thing as a stupid question, unless it’s simply a question that you already know the answer to and you’re just manipulating someone with it. That’s pretty stupid but it still tells the other person something about you.

If you don’t know something, find someone and ask them your question about it. It seems to be universally true that we honor the process of asking questions pretty well with one another. Maybe it’s the desire to be in a position to impart our knowledge to another person and therefore present ourself as knowledgeable or maybe we just like to help those around us, conceited or kind, either way. We answer questions and ask them in our turn.

A wise person imparts the gift of what they have learned to the good of humanity and I believe that it provides a deeper meaning and purpose to many people’s lives. I have not been the beneficiary of a great master in any department such as an Einstein or an Edison. I have not pursued knowledge under Jordan Peterson or Andrew Huberman in any other capacity than the YouTube observer that I am. I have not taken the college course in philosophy that would explain the basis for this drive, or one in childhood development. I can only tell you that the best questions are life changing.

Start with “What do I really want?”

Proceed with “What about this thing that I want is it that makes it most important to me?”

“How will I know when I get there?”

Break down the thoughts you have into smaller and smaller questions and answer them.

You won’t change the world today, but you will change your direction and focus if you get really clear about what you really want.

Specify to whom you are asking the questions. Do you believe in God? Are you asking Him? Are you asking yourself? Be very mindful of whom you are directing your questions to and how you receive the answers. Not every thought that comes to your mind is equally relevant.

Read books by Malcolm Gladwell such as “The Outliers” and “Tipping Point”, or perhaps “Deep Survival” by Lawrence Gonzales and learn about what happens in our lives and why. Learn about the voice inside you that knows what you need to do and how to weed out the other voices. Learn how to pursue the things you really want and how to recognize the factors that distinguish greatness from mediocrity.

There are no excuses that will taste good the older that you get. They truly don’t age well.

As a mother, your job is to show your children that you matter to you as well. You are to show them that you are learning, growing and pursuing what you really want. If you want them to know how, show them. Teach them to ask questions, to be curious and to investigate. They will thank you later, I promise!